Marriage Pressure and Your Health.
Marriage Pressure… hmm.
Is there an age one gets to that one should be worried about being unmarried?
At what age does this worry become so bad that it begins to mess with one’s mind? Can this worry cause one to develop mental health issues?
Marriage pressure and Mental Health
Can a person develop mental health issues simply because they have reached a certain age and remain unmarried?
I recall a patient I saw almost a decade ago. Her brother brought her to the hospital. The stench coming from her was so nauseating that I was actually uncomfortable. She was 45 and she had lost her mind.
Her brother told me the problem was she worried relentlessly about being unmarried.
She started talking and behaving irrationally.
Refused to have her bath.
She would sit in one spot for days on end.
I tried talking to her – she would talk, then suddenly become quiet as if her mind had left the room, then smile awkwardly.
Who places such a burden on someone?
Let’s check ourselves as a society. We may have noble intentions, but we need to stop goading people to get married or taunting them when they are single. Parents, aunties, and uncles should stop putting pressure on their wards. Married Friends – don’t abandon your single mates. The media also has a role to play, not everybody “go chop breakfast. Promote positive stories.
Also if you are single, don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself! Enjoy your life regardless of your marital status. Pursue your dreams and aspirations.
As a 40 year old woman who is unmarried, but wishes to be, I would guess her condition wasn't about being unmarried, but because of mental illness that already existed, and that is what she fixated on. Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but although at times I can be sad about still being single, it certainly isn't making me go crazy!
I don't think the stigma of being unmarried is quite so bad here in the US, certainly not to this point. In fact, I know plenty of married women who might prefer just the opposite… 😉
I agree with you completely Kianwi, something must have tilted her.
Hahaha, indeed Carrie.
In the western world it really is of no issue in the general society apart from pressure one puts upon self.In the African society, I believe society including family puts a lot of pressure on one to get married and the older you are getting the more the pressure becomes intense, more so if you are female.
I would want to believe that, but the patient in question was a british citizen who had been living in the UK.
I am a British citizen living in the UK but of African descent, that does not stop one's family putting pressure on one to get married.
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Wow! That's pretty extreme for simply not being married. Today, I think it's more acceptable than ever to not be married – living alone in the US is the fastest growing component of society. Anyway, hope she's OK. Marriage is wonderful if you have a good partner but can also be a nightmare if not. People should appreciate and value their lives – no matter their relationship status.
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